We need to talk

We need to talk. I chose that phrase because it’s one of the most anxiety inducing phrases and it also strongly throws you to the edge of your seat waiting to hear what will be said. And I want you to do that. I want you to listen. And I want you to pay attention. […]

This is how we love now

“We try so hard to hide everything we’re really feeling from those who probably need to know our true feelings the most. People try to bottle up their emotions, as if it’s somehow wrong to have natural reactions to life.” –Maybe, Someday, Colleen Hoover   We don’t want to love anymore. We don’t want to feel […]

The end of the line

“Write what disturbs you, what you fear, what you have not been willing to speak about. Be willing to be split open.” –Natalie Goldberg About six months ago I voluntarily checked myself into a psychiatric hospital. There’s a difference between telling people you suffer from a mental illness and telling people you have spent time in […]

The loneliness of depression

And so I remind myself: an imperfect word is sometimes better than silence, a pale metaphor better than suicide. Researchers and therapists want to understand problems in their broad dimensions; families and friends want to make sense of their afflicted loved ones; and, of course, those who suffer in isolation, starved for connection, mad with […]

The old brag of my heart

“One writes of scars healed, a loose parallel to the pathology of the skin, but there is no such thing in the life of an individual. There are open wounds, shrunk sometimes to the size of a pin-prick but wounds still. The marks of suffering are more comparable to the loss of a finger, or […]